ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.

makwento ko lan sa inyo ang isang hinaing sa akin ng aking kaibigan nuong nakaraan gabi ito lang naman eh tungkol sa kanyang buhay pag-ibig. achut, eto ako naman nagmukhang mala-Joe dMango’. well dahil nga sa sobrang naapektuhan ako sa kanyang mga pinagsasabi ang ending medyo nakapagsabi ako ng isang salita na ndi naman dapat nya malaman. gets nyo ba? medyo magulo ata.hayz. kasi ganito un mga tol, ung babae ang nag-open sa akin ng mga hinaing nya kesyo pagod na pagod na sya sa kanyang karelasyon, ganun at kung anu ano chorva pa, (hindi ko na details kasi baka mabasa nya tong blog na ito sumablay pa ulet ako.) on the other hand, accidentally ung si lalaki eh medyo close friend ko rin. eto na ang problem. syempre itong si lalaki eh kilala ko ung tipong diskarte nya, syempre alam nyo naman lalaki eh. (alam nyo naman cguro kung anu ibig kong sabihin.~!) ayun na nga isang gabi nakorner ako at eto si babae nagsusumbong sa akin na ganyan ganyan.. eto pa ang siste, medyo nadala ako sa sitwasyon at nasiwalat ko ang aking nalalaman at nalaman pa ni babae, dale, diba sablay na un?! kaya ito si babae eh lalong naguluhan. eh to pa ulet ang siste, si babae eh working sa malayong lugar, medyo malapit dito sa bayan ng mga superstar. ahehehe. kaya aun talagang gulo ang mga brain cells nya sa nalaman nya mula sa aking makakating dila. pero sinabi ko naman sa kanya na noon pa un nung kasakasama nya pa ako at syempre ako naman eh explain to the max dahil ayaw ko nga sumabit dahil ang panget. ayun eto na promise naman sa akin si babae na hindi makakarating sa lalaki ang mga sinawalat ko. pero on the other hand i told her na kaya kong panindigan ang mga nasabi ko at hindi un tsismis lan. diba ang taray. pero alam ko rin mga kapatid na mali ang aking nagawa dahil dapat ndi na ako nagsalita dahil WALA AKONG KARAPATAN!! eh ayun medyo umandar naman ang pagkamadaldal ko. hayz.

kaya aun malamang ilang gabi rin ako ndi nakatulog dahil sa kasablayan kong nagawa, kaya huminge na ako ng tulong kay pareng google. search mode naman ang naging trip ko hanggang sa natagpuan ko ang malamahiwagang mga salita, ang “ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP” eto na dito ko nalaman na mukhang nakikita ko ang mga senyales sa kanila. sabi pa nga sa nabasa ko eh karamihan sa ating mga kabataan ngayon eh nabibilang sa mga ganitong kaso at hindi nila alam sumasailalim sila sa ganitong kaso. eto cge para maishare ko naman sa inyo ito ang mga senyales:

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You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:

  • Is jealous or possessive toward you.(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
  • Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
  • Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
  • Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
  • Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
  • Abuses drugs or alcohol.
  • Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
  • Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
  • Has a history of bad relationships.
  • Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
  • You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
  • Makes “jokes” that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
  • Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
  • Your partner “rages” when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
  • Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
  • You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
  • You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it’s the right thing to do.

Does the person you love…

constantly keep track of your time?
• act jealous and possessive?
• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?
• discourage your relationships with friends and family?
• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?
• constantly criticize or belittle you?
• control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)
• humiliate you in front of others? (Including “jokes” at your expense.)
• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?
• have affairs?
• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?
• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?
• force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable     with?

eto pa;

Abusive relationships are characterized by extreme jealousy, emotional withholding, lack of intimacy, raging, sexual coercion, infidelity, verbal abuse, threats, lies, broken promises, physical violence, power plays and control games.

ayan mga kapatid, ikaw baka ndi mo alam eh ganito na pala ang kaso mo. paglumala pa ito eh baka ikaw sumunod sa yapak ni Mareng Rhianna at Pareng Cris. gudluk. sana makatulong ito sa inyo at sa dalawa kong kaibigan.(im hoping na magin okay pa sila!!) hays.

achut.

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Source:
http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm

Isang Tugon

  1. Jealousy.

    Tsktsk.

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